NON-NEGOTIABLES

In life, you have to have some boundaries of some sort, something that you weigh your personal values on. We all need strong Spiritual backing, yes! But aside from this, you need to understand your inner working and make up. Put up limitations, boundaries or what I will call deal breakers. A lot of times we fall victims because we are gullible, vulnerable or just plain ignorant. This is why it is reasonable to check mate your actions with boundaries because you have to determine the things you are willing to accept. What is that value, characteristic, quality that makes you realise you are in the wrong place or with the wrong person? When is it a no-no deal for you? I realised how important it is for one to have a deal breaker to validate all that you venture into, be it a new job, business or relationship. Its very important.

Recently, I got into a new job masterminded by a strategist who obviously knew what he could do with words, he persuades you to the point of assimilation and belief of his well calculated strategy to make millions of money off people with a packaged rewards in a very amicable way that it will take one so much discernment to be convinced otherwise. I was gullible, my vulnerability was capitalised upon and kept going at it even when my Spirit said otherwise. But what helped me was I put every word to probe and my values for integrity is a non-negotiable for me. I knew at some point that, 'you can't give what you don't have'. And that was it for me, that did it! And no matter the explanations that should follow, I couldn't go beyond that, just could not jump over that. That's my deal breaker! 

You know, no matter what someone says or promise you, integrity is a good check mate. If all you said and promised cannot be proven, then it all falsehood! When you lied, you failed!

For you, it could be anything but for all its worth, have a deal breaker, a non-negotiable, a safe place where you say, 'this is the limit with me', 'you can't cross this boundary with me'. Your non-negotiable could be dishonesty, financial or time mismanagement, talkative, abusive languages, back stabbing, betrayal, etc but no matter what it is use it as a counter move or contract bridge either to leave, break up or compromise!